Pathfinders partnered with Fathers Making Progress on a group series for young men to connect with and learn from each other. We talked with our own Derek Scruggs about why these sessions resonated.
Pathfinders: What was the purpose of this group?
Derek: Giving young men the opportunity to be heard, build connections, learn from one another and develop skills that will benefit them whether they are fathers today, in the future or are simply working toward becoming better men.
Many young men, especially men of color, are often hesitant to seek traditional mental health services. There can be a stigma around being vulnerable. This group created an environment where those barriers were lowered.
What stood out to me was the willingness of participants to keep coming back. They realized they weren’t alone in what they were experiencing.
What happened during the group?
Many of the discussions encouraged participants to think deeply about their lives and experiences. Some examples:
- Who was the first male role model you remember?
- Who would you consider the ideal TV dad and why?
- What messages about being a man were you taught growing up?
One of the biggest takeaways from the group was recognizing how much of our current thinking and behavior is shaped by things we learned when we were younger. Participants explored how certain beliefs, hurts and experiences can become baggage that we carry for years without realizing it. Many discussions focused on identifying those barriers and understanding that in order to grow and move forward, we sometimes have to let go of things that no longer serve us.
What did the youth think?
We had young men who came into the group reserved or skeptical about the process. By the end of the program, they were actively participating, sharing their experiences and supporting others.
One of the things we heard repeatedly was how much they appreciated having a safe space where they could talk openly without feeling judged.
Several participants shared that they looked forward to coming because they knew they would be surrounded by people who genuinely listened and cared about what they had to say.
Why is it important for young men to have opportunities to build community and resources dedicated to their unique needs?
Many young men are carrying burdens that are not always visible—family expectations, financial pressures, relationship challenges, past trauma, or uncertainty about their future.
Creating spaces specifically for young men allows them to have conversations that might not happen elsewhere. It helps normalize vulnerability, encourages personal growth, and reminds participants that they do not have to navigate life’s challenges alone.
When young men have access to positive support systems and meaningful connections, they are better equipped to become successful fathers, partners, employees, leaders, and community members. The impact extends beyond the individual and benefits families and communities as a whole.
